was one.
were two.
always.
the rings.
We met three years ago at a biology conference in New York, and the drinks afterward changed everything. Oscar followed Jake into the startup scene — events together every day, long runs every weekend — and we learned long distance the hard way: Bronx to Brooklyn, then a year across the country in eastern Washington, until Oscar moved home to Oakland and Jake followed. Now we're getting married where we landed. Everything you'll need is here: where to be, when, and how to make a weekend of it.
The Schedule
The look: Out-dress the grooms if you dare — though we suspect you will. Come dressed in Italian chic, dripping in la dolce vita glamour, a touch of Italian mob mystique, the sun-drenched decadence of Pier Paolo Pasolini, and the effortless elegance of a Roman Holiday. Excess is encouraged. Nothing is too fabulous. Sonoma cools off fast after sunset, so bring something for warmth in the evening.
Travel
Nearest Airports
SFO (San Francisco) or OAK (Oakland) — both are easy. OAK is closest to the Friday aperitivo; either works for the weekend.
Where to Sleep
We've booked a few Airbnbs ahead of time to cut everyone's lodging costs — claim a room at cost. Prefer a hotel? The Claremont is our pick.
Rooms & booking →Getting Around
Two chartered buses will run on Saturday — up to Jacuzzi Family Vineyards in Sonoma and back at the end of the night. Pickup points to follow.
The Party
"mom, come pick me up— Paige
"The eagle has landed, the egg has been laid.— Alyssa Mitchell
"Same as it ever was.— David Byrne
"Jake won an Oscar.— Anna
"Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!"— Hunter S. Thompson
"Some experiences are blessings; others are lessons. Both can shape you.— Dani
"From middle school to unforgettable nights in our 20's, my life is richer (and more unpredictable) with Jake in it.— Kristina
"The beauty of a true friend is they'll tell you when you have lettuce in your teeth… also you have lettuce in your teeth.— Dr. FranchettFirst maid of honor: Olivia Norton
"Oscar's 2015 prom date <3— Mariah
"What is done in love is done well.— Vincent van Gogh
"I rock, therefore I am.— Prince
"Pies, ¿para qué los quiero si tengo alas para volar?— Frida Kahlo
"Everything in moderation, including moderation.— Eli Schrag
"This is going to be grape!!— 2-year-old Ruby
She said grape but she means great!— 5-year-old Oscar
In the wedding party? Your pre-aperitivo schedule lives on your own page →
Registry
The greatest gift is you on the dance floor. But for those who've asked, we've put together a few things — and a fund for the honeymoon we've been dreaming about.
The Honeymoon
The Home
Shred Our Debt
The album
Every photo here came from a guest. Add yours — from the aperitivo, the vineyard, the barrel room, or years before any of it.
Things to Do
Say yes.
Kindly respond by 1 May 2027. One form per household — update it anytime before the deadline. Questions? Text or call Jake — 646-852-2993.
Bringing little ones? A babysitter will be available after the ceremony. In your note below, tell us if you're traveling with children — how many, what ages, and whether they'll join us for dinner or enjoy chicken nuggets upstairs.
In good company.
Every gold light is a city someone is travelling from. RSVP above and add yours to the map.